Your next date is with You.

There’s a misconception that joy only comes when we’re with other people, a partner, friends, or family. Some of the most transformative moments happen when you date yourself with joy. And I don’t mean just doing things you like, that’s the easy part. True joy comes from planning, anticipation, self-discovery, and surrendering to the unexpected.

Dating yourself with joy starts long before you step out the door. It begins in the preparation, in the way you plan the experience as if it were for someone you love deeply. Think of it like planning a birthday or a celebration. You imagine the moment, the atmosphere, the food, the experience. Even if everything doesn’t go perfectly, there’s something magical about the anticipation, it’s almost as exciting as the experience itself.

While planning, you learn about yourself. Not what your kids or spouse like. Not what anyone else enjoys. What excites you? What fills your soul? I look for experiences that reflect what I love: sunsets, nature, beautiful lighting, romantic ambience, new places. Sometimes it’s familiar comfort; sometimes it’s a new adventure that challenges me. Either way, it’s growth.

Every detail matters, the outfit, the food, the activity. Each choice is intentional, helping you fully immerse yourself in the moment. Confidence is key. You learn to enjoy your own company, to trust that your life is rich and complete, even without waiting for someone else.

And here’s where faith comes in. Even with all the planning, things may not go as imagined. Maybe a restaurant is closed, or a sunset is blocked by clouds. Joy doesn’t disappear when plans shift. Surrendering your plans to God allows Him to make the experience better than you ever imagined. True joy isn’t just in the planning, it’s in the surrender.

Dating yourself with joy is about intention, self-discovery, and celebration. It’s about noticing what you love, honoring yourself, and trusting God with the unexpected.

Here’s your challenge: choose a place and take yourself on a date. Plan it with intention, the food, the activity, the vibe, even your outfit. Immerse yourself fully, savor the moment, and then email me. Send a picture, share what stood out, and tell me one of your favorite moments from your solo date. I want to celebrate this intentional joy with you because seeing yourself fully and giving yourself this love is a practice worth sharing.

Dating yourself with joy isn’t just about solo adventures, it’s about living intentionally, confidently, and fully in every season of life. Start today. You deserve it!